Look Great Feel Confident

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Published by Rachelle Disbennett-Lee
Sunday, November 25, 2001
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How we look affects how we feel about ourselves. It doesn't mean that we have to look like super models. Most super models don't look like super models without a lot of assistance. Looking great is a personal thing; it can mean different things to different people. When you look your personal best, you feel better and are more confident in yourself.

Looking great has to do with finding your own personal style. This takes time and certainly can change over the years. What I liked in my twenties isn't anything near what I like now. Nevertheless, one thing hasn't changed. I have always been willing to wear what I like and not be totally dictated by fashion trends or the fashion police.

Expressing one's personal style takes courage. It is nice to get compliments about the way we look, but compliments are about the person who is giving the compliment not about us. It is more important for us to look good for ourselves and not worry about what other people think. What other people think about what we wear isn't important. The only thing that matters is if we like how we look. When we look great to ourselves, our confidence is boosted.

One question I never ask is, "What are you wearing?" The reason, I don't care. How other people dress doesn't matter to me because I am not going to dress like they are anyway. It is nice to know the dress code so that I don't show up in shorts if the dress code is formal. However, I have been known to show up at a Bar-B-Q in an evening gown when the mood strikes me. I belong to a business dinner club that doesn't allow jeans. They will turn people way if they are so dressed. Knowing the rules is important. But, it is even more important that we express our own personal style and look good according to our own rules.

It can be a fine line between looking our personal best and meeting the standards of society. As Socrates points out, if we agree to live in a society we agree to live by the rules of that society. Decorum does have some say. It seems disrespectful to me to show up at a wedding in shorts or at a business meeting wearing weekend garb. Though within the rules, we can find our own personal style and express who we really are. I have one executive client that shared with me that sometimes just for fun he wears his Mickey Mouse boxers to work. No one else knows, but it puts him in a lighthearted mood and he smiles all day knowing he has a secret.

Coaching

Looking great and discovering our own personal style has more to do with who we are inside than what we wear on the outside. The outside is simply an expression of who we are. When we look great according to our own style, our confidence is boosted. Looking great is a way of expressing the best part of who we are. On the days that we don't feel so great on the inside, looking great on the outside can boost our confidence.

How do you express your own personal style?

Daily Success Formula

Looking great = Boosted Confidence

Quotes

"Anything in any way beautiful derives its beauty from itself and asks nothing beyond itself. Praise is no part of it, for nothing is made worse or better by praise." Marcus Aurelius

"I'm tired of all this nonsense about beauty being only skin-deep. That's deep enough. What do you want--an adorable pancreas?" Jean Kerr